Struggles with society

Hey Hannah here,

Have you ever felt like society is way too demanding? I mean all these do's and dont's; it gets frustrating. These are what I have face:

*My grades need to be higher

*My weight needs to be lower

*My boobs need to be bigger

*My waist needs to be smaller

*My face needs to be prettier

*So my friends will have to seem uglier

*My hair needs to be longer

*My skirt needs to be shorter

I could go on and on and on about how society wants you to be this and that. It gets so frustrating. It's just never enough. You need to be smarter but not so smart you are a smartypants, you need to talk to boys or you are too "conservative" but not or you are proud. You need to be bubbly but not so much that you are talkative. Honestly I am tired of everything. You can never seem to do anything right. More. It's always more. Society always wants more and I am sick of it.

Sick of never being enough, of always needing more, of giving myself away to a group of people who aren't adding anything to me. Sick of being judged. I am tired of looking at other girls wondering why I can't be perfect like they are. I am tired of everything.

I can't believe it took me so long to realise that they weren't perfect. Not at all. They were all lacking something in one way. The truth is no one can be perfect. There will always be troubles and issues that we all have.

I used to wish for other people's lives, girls I deemed prettier than me, people who were smarter, sportier than I was. One day I and a girl were talking and she told me how she used to wish for my life. I was so shocked that I just literally froze, nothing moved. My brain struggled to process her words. Why would she want to be like me? Did she not know all the issues I faced? Didn't she know how I longed to be perfect like all those other girls? and that was when it clicked. She didn't know.

Just like how I didn't know about all the other girls I admired from afar. I didn't know their desires, nor the sacrifices they've had to make. I just deemed them perfect so in my mind they were but they have their own demons. We all do. We have issues so maybe we should stop caring what society says, stop wishing for someone's life and start fighting our own demons. Who knows maybe we might just defeat them?

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