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"Why do girls wear short skirts?" he asked me.

Hey, Hannah here,
One night, a boy asked me a question and it really got me thinking. After a lot of thinking I came up with an answer that I want to share with all of you. He asked "Why do girls like to wear short skirts?"

In boarding school it's not uncommon for girls to ride their skirts up or fold it to make it shorter and some tighten their skirts but why? I thought really hard about it. We just want to feel beautiful, we want to be noticed, to feel loved and to love. A lot of girls go the extra length- those super tight jeans, that showy shirt, a lot wear make up just so they can feel beautiful, Everyone knows that Queen Bee in most high school movies and series. No one ever considers that maybe just maybe she's just as insecure as the rest of us. She has tooth pick legs but no one ever considers that she's anorexic, they see that she is a bully but no one considers that maybe she is just insecure and whats to see some one else as unsure of them selves (although this the case in a lot of bullies it is  never a good excuse to bully), they see that she chases after boys sleeping with them anyhow no one considers that maybe she is just trying to feel loved people forget that she is human they see her as part demon yet they are too scared to stand up to her. They forget that she is still a teenage girl and she still needs to feel beautiful and loved.
(I am now speaking generally)  Boys need to understand that girl with the nice looking butt can barely move her leg in the tight jeans she's wearing, it's uncomfortable but she wears it so that a boy can tell her that she is pretty. They don't know that the girl with the "flawless" face is flawed beyond comparison, she has her own demons, just like the rest of us. That girl at the  beach with the nice body that they saw as just another opportunity for sex doesn't eat, she can't, not after forcing herself to stop. Her arms are thin as a pin but it doesn't matter, she is perfect  now, and thats all that matters. We go through all of this just for a boy to say that we are beautiful.
Now I'm not going to go all #girlpower (not that I don't believe in it it's just that sometimes even girl power is not enough) and say that we don't need a boy to tell us that (its true but saying it doesn't really make it much better), or that girls don't need to feel  beautiful, not when they are supposed to be studying and getting A's in exams and tests. I'm not going to say that because I understand how it feels like to crave attention (note: when I say attention in all cases I don't mean the spotlight, I'd faint! I mean to be noticed and not to be forgotten. You know, that girl that sits at the back of the class and they don't notice that she's not around till its time for the register. I mean for a boy to look at us the way he looks at her.)  because I know it's possible to have all the things we are looking for and still be the best in the class. What I am going to say is its ok to feel like that, it's okay to want love, you don't have to be ashamed, it's part of our nature but in your quest for these feelings don't ever compromise yourself, your beliefs or your life.Don't make the same mistakes the Queen Bee did, be yourself.



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I'm Hannah Kay and I'm just a teenage girl sharing the world the way she views it.

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  1. SanniJuly 1, 2018 at 5:39 PM

    Hey, Hannah!! It’s me, Sanni, again! I actually found your blog from Alivia, who shared it on her Instagram story and this was the post that had hooked me into checking this blog out.

    So basically I like to wear short clothes - crop tops, miniskirts, short shorts, the like - and to be really honest, it has absolutely nothing to do with boys. I understand some girls may do it for the male attention, but in my experience and opinion, I think it rarely ever has to do with that.

    In my English class two years ago, we did some stuff on mass media and how it influences the viewers and readers and we talked about things like hypersexualization and objectification of women and using sex as a marketing tool and a lot of the short clothes tend to come down to this. Because this is what society tells us we need to be wearing and doing. And maybe this is something you should research and tackle in your blog, it’s genuinely interesting and a really big issue in society because it affects the way women are treated in everyday life, too.

    You talking about the hiked up skirts reminded me of my uniform days (which make me want to laugh because it’s a bit cringey when I think about it) and how I used to hike it up to but it wasn’t for boys’ attention. There were a few other reasons, such as every-girl-is-doing-it, this-skort-is-genuinely-too-long, uniforms-are-ugly-how-to-make-it-better, and also because I live in a hot country so the shorter, the better (at least for me).

    That being said, I do understand the desire of “oh I want this boy to look at me the way he looks at that pretty girl” and you talked about how you feel like that too sometimes and I just want to say that, I understand. Fortunately, when you’re a bit older, it will no longer be a priority and once you find the beauty and confidence in yourself (which just takes time, love), you won’t need validation from anyone else.

    So basically let’s just refresh because I think I went a bit all over the place: the issue you raised is great, but I would’ve loved to see a deeper discourse that goes into how mass media (ads, Instagram, movies, etc.) shapes the way we think, act, and behave, and how that plays into our daily lives, but I like that you validated wanting to feel pretty and to be recognized (but at the same time there are some issues here pertaining to feminism and how we’re not here just for the looks & the sex - I have a tumblr @ sannisideup.tumblr.com if you wanna talk more!).

    Okay it’s still a mess, just like my life huhu. But pls hmu @ my tumblr or ya know what I’ll email you I suppose. :)

    - more good wishes & fortune sent your way

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    1. Hannah KayJuly 2, 2018 at 2:54 AM

      Thanks a pot Sanni. I don't have a tumblr yet but I'll try to get an account. Till then feel free to send an email.
      Thank you for the advice I'll be sure to research on it. Thanks!

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  2. UnknownJuly 13, 2018 at 8:44 PM

    Hannah, this is amazing I really love it. but i want to you to write on my quote.

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